We all have our own pick me ups, in times of need. Be it a slick of red lipstick or a solo trip to your favourite restaurant. Heck, someone i know likes to play the Game of Thrones card game by himself, always Lannisters against Greyjoys. These things never fail to cheer us up and if they did then we'd ditch them and find something new to treat ourselves with. When you're insecure about a part of yourself then you experience high points, where you feel unaffected by your issues, and low points, where they become all you can focus on. Like being in a bad mood, or having a rubbish day, these low times should be remedied with a pick me up. A treat that targets the specific issue you've taken grievance with.
A treat that can not only raise your general mood but elevate your confidence towards this insecurity is what you need. Unfortunately it's not so easy to treat your low confidence about a small bust. When you catch sight of someone with a perfect cleavage, or the greatest sideboob, you can't treat your jealousy to dinner. If you come across a bra that you need but isn't made in your size or a bra that just won't fit no matter how hard you try, well you can't challenge your disappointment to a role playing card game. When someone makes a nasty comment about you being an inferior woman or claims they're a "breast person" and you don't fit the bill, you can't apply lipstick to your insecurities. Whilst these techniques may work to raise your mood, they won't make you feel better about embracing the body you have.
I'm easily pleased with material things, lingerie and shoes to be exact (as if you don't already know that by visiting my blog). So when i'm really feeling down and wondering how many shifts at work i'd need to afford a breast augmentation, I head straight to the top floor of Topshop. This is where their lingerie section lives, and more specifically, their collection of very delicate, very tiny, lacy bralettes. Topshop never lets me down in this department. Every season, sometimes twice a season, new little bras and bralettes and bandeaus appear on the shop floor, almost designed for the small busted. For most they'd be purely decorative, but not for us. These little delights are not very expensive, and are often left over in great batches, all reduced to a mere pittance. Prancing around in something pretty, seeing how your bust fills out the fabric, not experiencing any discomfort, well that's a treat.
Those who don't find the same kind of pleasure in the intimate parts of Topshop could consider different treats. Maybe a massage that targets the torso area, or a new push up bra, a romantic night with your significant other, a long pamper session or taking a life drawing class. Try anything that can raise your mood, specifically when you're feeling down about your insecurities. You want to find something that can make you feel good about the things you dislike about your body, time and time again.
Other posts in this series:
Introduction
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Other posts in this series:
Introduction
I
II
III
V
*This "commandment" is only a suggestion and i in no way pass any judgement on those who chose to embrace different or contradictory behaviours. This is purely something that i, personally, find helpful towards being a more positive and confident person. These are all my own opinions and do not have any scientific weight behind them. I respect everyone's right to an opinion and understand that my own opinion should not apply to everyone else.